Monkey Relationship Survey

The Monkey Relationship Survey

If you are a mediator or mindfulness practitioner you can use this to see how your practice is changing your internal landscape

If you are taking the 12 week Challenge please complete the survey on the last day of each week so you can see your scores  progress.

If you are just interested then the survey questions help you consider what's going on inside you and if it suits your purpose....

This survey is free to use and you are welcome to use it as often as you like so we suggest you keep a record of each result in a safe place to see how your scores progress and vary.

Quick guide to getting accurate consistent results-

We ask you to score each statement with a '0 to 10' score - run with your first impressions and then watch the changes as you continue to read the book and complete the exercises.

Don't overthink -  There is no right answer - your trend scores are what matter.

Just taking the survey regularly helps you think differently about what happens in your head and forms part of the overal change process.

If you find it hard to choose a score,  just follow your gut, your instinct or your first idea.

Trust yourself, the survey works well to give you trend information that will reflect the changes you create in your relationship with your Monkey.

Best advice?   "Take the survey every week and watch the trends."

Nature of the Survey -

We use 42 statements to evaluate the nature of the relationship you  currently have with your Monkey.

Simply rate each statement between  0 - 10 where a score of 0 means ‘no or not at all’ and a score of 10 means ‘yes or completely’.

Rating the 42 statements will take you less than 10 minutes

The total combined score gives you a measure of the quality of the relationship you currently enjoy with your Monkey.

For a supported 12 week focus you can sign up to the Challenge  here 


I am working on what really counts to me 

I have a clear idea of what I am doing with my life

I have a clear idea of why I do what I do

I feel what I am doing suits every part of me

All of me pulls together to help me achieve what I want to achieve

I feel completely focussed on my destination 

If I set out to do something I am confident I will do it

I spend most of my time doing things that help me get what I want

I believe my Monkey is on my side

I believe my Monkey understands what I want 

I believe my Monkey is considering when to interrupt

I believe my Monkey brings me thoughts that help me

I believe my Monkey understands what I am doing 

I believe my Monkey brings me thoughts, ideas and comments to encourage me

I believe my Monkey understands interruptions are sensitive 

I believe my Monkey understands how best to help me

I believe my Monkey understands that sometimes rules must be broken

I believe my Monkey and I are working together

I believe that I can influence the degree of distraction in my head

I find sitting with a quiet empty mind easy

I can easily ignore outside distractions

I feel happy just being me

I feel I can easily say no when I want to say no

I can choose whether to get involved with external distractions or not

I can say no without agonising over it

I can start a task or job and remain focussed till its done

I can avoid getting distracted when I need to

I am not easily distracted

I always find it easy to say yes when I want to say yes

I feel positive about my future

I don’t usually procrastinate

I feel that I am good at balancing any demands on my time

I feel I can make decisions and forget about them

I feel I can manage the internal dialogue in my head

I find it easy to give up methods that are not working

I tell myself the truth

I have a good grasp on why I do what I do

I have a good grasp of what is really happening and how I think about it

I am able to make decisions quickly and easily

Thanks for taking the Misaligned Monkey Survey

We will email you your results -

We hope it makes sense - People tell us it helps to repeat the survey regularly as it gives you far more information about your progress when you can compare scores.

If you don't yet use the book or the challenge to help you facilitate change check out our shop for the latest offers.

You can currently (2024) get a free copy of the audio book in our shop and also a free challenge that will take you through the steps of our challenge - 12 weeks to a better relationship.

This is a no obligation offer to help us get more people excited about what a new relationship with our Monkey can offer.

You can read more about how to use your scores  here 

MM team


If you don't like the word challenge see it as a free 12 week online course or how to reengineer your relationship with your Monkey.